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Tuesday, July 28th, 2009

A Pause

I’ve taken a few swings at this and had something ready to go, but circumstances changed and now I’m at a bit of a loss for words. So briefly. My father was diagnosed with cancer not three months ago and though we were warned that things would move quickly, no one anticipated it would as fast as it’s been, and he passed away yesterday around noon, as peacefully as you could hope and with his family at his side.

I had planned to take an open-ended hiatus from the blog, which had been a tremendous and necessary distraction over the last while, to tend to him and family matters as things progressed. But now, it seems, he’s done me the final favour of clarifying the “when” and given me the opportunity to make plans again for the first time in what seems like forever. Thanks, Dad. So I’m still going to be largely absent for the next little while – still much to do – things will be back sooner rather than later. When my RSS reader starts overflowing, it’s not a pretty sight.

So thanks to everyone who’s expressed their sympathies and condolences via phone, email, Facebook, Twitter and whatever since yesterday – they’re all deeply and genuinely appreciated. Take care, see you soon.

By : Frank Yang at 9:13 am
Category: General
RSS Feed for this post110 Responses.

  1. 7/28/09 9:23 am

     EF Matt says:

    Frank, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

  2. 7/28/09 9:26 am

     John says:

    My deepest sympathy to you and your family Frank. Even if you know it’s coming it’s never ever an easy thing to lose someone.
    Please take all the time you need and we’ll welcome you back when you’re ready!

  3. 7/28/09 9:27 am

     scott says:

    Adding a voice to the condolences. Cancer is such a bitch of a disease… and I’m VERY sorry to hear of your loss. There’s no “right thing” to say (especially since a lot of these thoughts will come from, essentially, strangers) – but I’m sure I speak for everyone when I say – take as much time as you need. We’ll all be here when you’re ready.

  4. 7/28/09 9:29 am

     Brad says:

    I’m sorry for your loss…

  5. 7/28/09 9:32 am

     Meegs says:

    So very sorry to hear the news. Please know that your IRL friends & internet friends are here for you. My thoughts are with you & your mom & brother. Let us know how we can help when you have a sec.
    Big hugs from your #1 fan,
    mw

  6. 7/28/09 9:43 am

     Chris says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad. Take good care, ok?

  7. 7/28/09 9:45 am

     Joe says:

    Take your time Frank. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

  8. 7/28/09 9:45 am

     Adam K. says:

    So sorry to hear this, Frank… it’s never easy to deal with such a close loss. My dearest condolences to both you and your family.

  9. 7/28/09 9:56 am

     Daddy Rocker says:

    Frank,

    I’ve read your blog for years, and although we’ve never met I feel as if we are somehow friends.
    I’ll be sure to raise a glass to your father tonight.

  10. 7/28/09 9:56 am

     Stu says:

    So sorry to hear that Frank. Sending you love and strength.

  11. 7/28/09 9:56 am

     Kyle says:

    Frank I am so sorry about your loss. My thoughts (and I’m sure the thoughts of many, many others) are with you right now. Don’t hesitate to reach out if I can help in any way.

  12. 7/28/09 9:58 am

     Maria says:

    Frank, I am so sorry for your loss. Take as much time as needed. We will be here for you when you come back.
    MARIA

  13. 7/28/09 10:07 am

     Travis says:

    Frank… I’m very sorry about your loss. My thoughts are with you.

  14. 7/28/09 10:08 am

     Erik T. says:

    Sorry to hear about your loss Frank. Take care of yourself, and my thoughts are with you and your family.

  15. 7/28/09 10:18 am

     Lisa says:

    So sorry for your loss. Many many hugs, Frank. Take care.

  16. 7/28/09 10:20 am

     Gillian says:

    So sorry to hear that, my thoughts are with you x

  17. 7/28/09 10:21 am

     guigs says:

    I’m very very sorry for your loss. Have been a silent reader of your blog for a few yeard and I feel quite ashamed for not making any contact before. I hope you’re coming back soon, so maybe I can redeem myself. You blog is great, you really shouldn’t give up on this, but, now, take your time to look at what’s really necessary in your life.

    Take care.

  18. 7/28/09 10:22 am

     Nicholas says:

    Take off as much time as you need. If you want to skip a show, do it. Whatever you choose to do, we’ll understand. I hope things go as well as they can for you and your family.

  19. 7/28/09 10:23 am

     Jon Selig says:

    Sincere condolences to you and your family. Be well.

  20. 7/28/09 10:26 am

     bryan says:

    Condolences Frank. My thoughts are with your family.

  21. 7/28/09 10:27 am

     Michael says:

    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers Frank. Seeing as how your last post was about Wilco, I think the lyrics to On And On And On are very appropriate for today.

    On and on and on we’ll stay together yeah
    On and on and on we’ll be together yeah
    You and I will try to stay together yeah
    On and on and on we’ll be together yeah

    Please don’t cry we’re designed to die
    Don’t deny what’s inside
    On and on and on we’ll stay together yeah
    On and on and on
    On and on and on

    One day we’ll disappear together in a dream
    However short or long our lives are going to be
    I will live in you or you will live in me
    Until we disappear together in a dream

    Please don’t cry we’re designed to die
    You can’t deny even the gentlest tide
    On and on and on we’ll be together yeah
    On and on and on
    On and on and on
    We’re going to try

    Please don’t cry
    This world of words and meanings makes you feel outside
    Something that you feel already deep inside
    You’ve denied
    Go ahead and cry

    On and on and on we’ll stay together yeah
    On and on and on
    On and on and on

    You and I will stay together yeah
    You and I will try to make it better yeah

  22. 7/28/09 10:29 am

     ayl says:

    I am so sorry…

    You are being so strong right now.

  23. 7/28/09 10:29 am

     Sophia says:

    My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

  24. 7/28/09 10:42 am

     david says:

    My deepest sympathies, Frank, to you and your family. Please let me know if I can help in any way.

  25. 7/28/09 10:42 am

     TH says:

    I’m sorry for your and your family’s loss.

  26. 7/28/09 10:49 am

     Max says:

    Sorry to hear about your loss Frank.

  27. 7/28/09 10:55 am

     Troy says:

    all the best through this difficult time.

  28. 7/28/09 11:00 am

     marc says:

    sorry to hear about your loss, hope to see you back here sooner rather than later, take care

  29. 7/28/09 11:08 am

     Thomas says:

    All the best for you and your family.
    My thoughts go out to you.

  30. 7/28/09 11:09 am

     PG says:

    I’m terribly sorry to hear this, my sincere condolences.

  31. 7/28/09 11:18 am

     Brad says:

    Frank,

    Hold steady (as Hemingway writes in Big Two-Hearted River)
    and carry the fire (as Cormac McCarthy writes in The Road).

    Brad

  32. 7/28/09 11:37 am

     Scott says:

    There is nothing to say that might help in this situation. I’m very sorry to hear about your father, and hope you find a way to cope that brings you strength and eventually allows you to find happiness again.

  33. 7/28/09 11:57 am

     Jabs says:

    Frank,

    I’m sorry for your loss. My sincerest condolences to your entire family.

  34. 7/28/09 12:08 pm

     paul says:

    condolences.

  35. 7/28/09 12:30 pm

     Stuart says:

    Sorry to hear about your loss. Take all the time you need…

  36. 7/28/09 1:09 pm

     Chris says:

    Hey Frank, so sorry to hear about your loss. My deepest condolences.
    Chris

  37. 7/28/09 1:43 pm

     Jason (the2scoops) says:

    Very sorry to hear about your loss Frank. My sympathy and condolences to your family. Take as much time as you need, you know we’ll all be here when you’re ready man.

  38. 7/28/09 1:45 pm

     Elva says:

    So sorry to hear the sad news. My condolences to you and your family.

  39. 7/28/09 2:21 pm

     Karl says:

    My deepest sympathies. There will be plenty of people who will tell you how you “should” feel, how you ‘should” go about grieving, etc. The last thing you should do is worry about any of that. Do what you must. Come back if and when you feel ready.

  40. 7/28/09 2:42 pm

     Derek says:

    Frank – please accept my sincere condolences. Take care of yourself and we’ll see you when you get back.

  41. 7/28/09 3:05 pm

     Andrew says:

    Hey Frank,

    I’m really sorry to hear about your loss and I wish you and your family my condolences.

  42. 7/28/09 3:22 pm

     Kevin says:

    Sorry for your loss Frank.

  43. 7/28/09 3:25 pm

     Kasia says:

    I’m sorry for your loss Frank. Stay strong.

  44. 7/28/09 3:33 pm

     Marco says:

    My sincere condolences, Frank. I am very sorry.

  45. 7/28/09 3:46 pm

     Adam says:

    So sorry about your father Frank.

  46. 7/28/09 3:59 pm

     Stormy says:

    I know that many people that you’ve never met and never will (like me) all have you in their hearts and minds at this time. Go ahead and let it wash over you.

  47. 7/28/09 4:12 pm

     Bryan says:

    My deepest condolences to you and your family Frank.

  48. 7/28/09 4:20 pm

     dB says:

    Sorry about your loss. Best wishes to you and your family.

  49. 7/28/09 5:06 pm

     Erin says:

    I’m so sorry Frank, I know what a terrible loss this is. I’m a big fan of your writing, though not much of a commenter, but I hope you take as much time as you need.

  50. 7/28/09 5:16 pm

     alan says:

    So sorry to hear this Frank. Hope you and your family get through this ok. Take care. Your readers will be here whenever you decide to come back.

  51. 7/28/09 5:22 pm

     G. says:

    hey Frank. my condolences to you and yours in this difficult time.

  52. 7/28/09 5:32 pm

     Kevin says:

    Frank– You don’t know me but I’ve enjoyed your blog. Just wanted to pass along my condolences to you and your family.

  53. 7/28/09 5:33 pm

     Bruce says:

    Frank. Wow. My heart goes out to you. This explains, among other things, your absence at Frightened Rabbit last week. Please accept my sympathies and as you say, let the blog be a welcome distraction when you’re ready to return to it. In the meantime, do what you must. Take care.

  54. 7/28/09 5:58 pm

     Michael says:

    Frank.
    I’m not quite sure why I’m so upset by this news, seeing I am but a reader of Chromewaves and we’ve just exchanged a few e-mails over the years, but you have my most sincere sympathies for your loss. My thoughts will be with you and I hope that you can find some solace in your memories of your father.
    Take care,
    Michael

  55. 7/28/09 6:17 pm

     juepucta says:

    Big hug, man.

    -G.

  56. 7/28/09 8:13 pm

     Patanoia says:

    Please accept my deepest sympathies.

    Pat

  57. 7/28/09 10:04 pm

     tyler says:

    Sorry for your loss, Frank.

  58. 7/28/09 10:13 pm

     Neal says:

    I am sorry for your loss, Frank. Best wishes to you and your family.

  59. 7/28/09 10:51 pm

     Scott says:

    God bless and my deepest sympathies.

  60. 7/28/09 11:32 pm

     kat says:

    Frank I hope that you are surrounded by family and long hugs. My deepest condolences.

  61. 7/28/09 11:39 pm

     Jay DFTB says:

    Hey Frank, really sorry to hear about this. Have experienced this before, my best advice is to stick close to the good people you care most about through this difficult time. If you need to chat get in touch.

    J

  62. 7/29/09 1:09 am

     Mike says:

    Frank, my sincerest condolences to you and your family.

  63. 7/29/09 1:10 am

     Hugh says:

    I am sorry for your loss Frank.

  64. 7/29/09 4:50 am

     Chalky says:

    Sending you a big hug, hope you and your family are ok x

  65. 7/29/09 6:42 am

     Chuck says:

    Terribly sorry to hear, Frank.

  66. 7/29/09 7:09 am

     John says:

    My condolences to you and your family.

  67. 7/29/09 7:23 am

     Michael says:

    Very sorry to hear about your loss. Take care.

  68. 7/29/09 9:43 am

     Ed K says:

    ..take care..

  69. 7/29/09 10:06 am

     Manish says:

    My sincerest condolences to you and your family Frank

  70. 7/29/09 10:18 am

     .kev says:

    Very sorry to hear this Frank. Take care and time.

  71. 7/29/09 10:23 am

     b.cummings says:

    take all the time you need.
    all of his will be here when you return.

  72. 7/29/09 10:37 am

     ovenking says:

    So sorry to hear this…my utmost condolences…

  73. 7/29/09 12:28 pm

     Valerie says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your father, cancer is a devastating disease.

  74. 7/29/09 12:39 pm

     Bo says:

    Sorry for your loss Frank. Condolences to you and your family.

  75. 7/29/09 1:11 pm

     Mike says:

    Deeply sorry to hear about your loss. Come back to music whenever you feel ready.

  76. 7/29/09 1:35 pm

     Dodge says:

    My love and sympathy to you and your family Frank.

  77. 7/29/09 2:59 pm

     JL says:

    Very sorry Frank. Just want to take a moment to say how much I enjoy your blog.

  78. 7/29/09 3:43 pm

     Damon says:

    Sorry to hear this Frank. My thoughts are with you.

  79. 7/29/09 3:58 pm

     Allan says:

    Very sorry to hear this. :(

  80. 7/29/09 8:00 pm

     Noah says:

    Sorry to hear about your loss mate. Godspeed.

  81. 7/29/09 9:40 pm

     Clif says:

    Frank-Sorry to hear about your father. Hopefully, you and your loved ones are remembering all of the joy he brought to your lives.

  82. 7/29/09 10:42 pm

     thomaus says:

    Frank,

    I’ve been trying to cope with the death of my dad back in April. His illness also took him away in under three months. I wish I had words of wisdom to pass on from the experience. But it’s a weird struggle to sort out losing someone close to you. I haven’t figured it out. But I do look at things, and relationships, differently now, and am trying to do things a little better.

    My heart goes out to you and your family. If you need something, a favour, whatever, I’d be happy to lend a hand. As I’m sure most of the Chromewaves readers would too.

  83. 7/29/09 10:58 pm

     Chris says:

    I dread the day that I find myself in the same situation. Keep your chin up Frank, sorry for your loss.

  84. 7/30/09 12:40 am

     Patricia says:

    My sincerest condolences to you and your family. :(

  85. 7/30/09 4:27 am

     Tart says:

    Be well, be comforted, be loved. xoxo

  86. 7/30/09 9:49 am

     Mikey Riot says:

    My sympathies Frank, I lost my father to cancer a little over a year ago as well.

  87. 7/30/09 12:11 pm

     muruch says:

    I’m so sorry. We’re all thinking of you.

  88. 7/30/09 12:51 pm

     anja says:

    I’m sorry for your loss.

  89. 7/30/09 6:13 pm

     huskermould says:

    take your time coming back to the web. when you’re ready to come back, we’ll still be here.

  90. 7/30/09 8:49 pm

     ryan says:

    this will be here when you feel up to it, and we will all be here whenever you come back.

    do what you need to do. everyone appreciate the work you do to keep this site up, and we all understand the need to step back for a bit.

    best wishes.

  91. 7/30/09 10:00 pm

     chuck says:

    we’re sorry for your loss Frank. your pops will be in our prayers and thoughts.

    -chuck
    livid recs.

  92. 7/31/09 1:02 am

     Karen says:

    So sorry for your loss. Take care.

  93. 7/31/09 2:59 am

     stephe says:

    My deepest sympathies. i appreciate all the love and passion for music that you’ve sent out over the years. I wish i could give back to you what you give out.
    Take care,
    stephe

  94. 7/31/09 4:39 am

     GeertA says:

    Having lost my father to that very same disease a year ago, I can now also relate to your loss in stead of just relating to your taste in music. Take your time to do whatever you and your family have to do. I know from experience that it takes time before you fully realise what just happened and you can come to some kind of understanding/acceptance/…
    My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
    Take care.

  95. 7/31/09 11:01 am

     Adrian says:

    Hi Frank,

    So sorry to hear you’re news..look forward to hearing from you again when you’re feel up to it.

  96. 7/31/09 1:32 pm

     Jacob says:

    So sorry for your loss, Frank. Take care of yourself and we’ll be awaiting your return.

  97. 7/31/09 3:21 pm

     Kim says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I couldn’t imagine having such a short period between diagnosis and the end…. it breaks my heart. take care while you grieve.

  98. 7/31/09 5:42 pm

     Trevor says:

    Frank, my condolences to you and your family…Trevor @ Paper Bag.

  99. 7/31/09 10:44 pm

     bobbyk9 says:

    Frank, I’m so very sorry to hear about this sad news….I lost my Dad to cancer last September. It was not entire unexpected, but that did not make his passing any easier….I can only say that the pain decreases as the time passes….my family & I will be thinking of you…

  100. 8/1/09 4:14 pm

     Fred says:

    Frank–deepest sympathies to you and your family. I lost my Father to cancer, too. Horrible horrible disease.

    The loss never gets easy, but it does get easier. For whatever that’s worth.

  101. 8/2/09 5:25 pm

     Paul says:

    My thoughts are with you and your family Frank.

  102. 8/2/09 8:48 pm

     azecho says:

    frank, i’m so sorry for your loss. i lost my father a few years back and i can assure you once the pain recedes only great memories remain.

    drew

  103. 8/2/09 10:12 pm

     Emily says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss…look forward to hearing from you again when things get easier. Take care.

  104. 8/3/09 1:44 pm

     Lizzie says:

    Frank

    I am deeply sorry for your loss.
    my thoughts are with you and your family.

    take care

    lizzie

  105. 8/4/09 12:26 am

     Michael says:

    Frank, my sincerest condolences. My thoughts are with you.

  106. 8/4/09 2:10 am

     Jim says:

    Frank,

    the best to you and yours…..

  107. 8/4/09 4:41 am

     Erik says:

    my condolences to you and your family

  108. 8/9/09 3:58 pm

     Adrian says:

    Frank, it’s a well-earned pause. It’s just too bad it’s been caused by something so tragic. My condolences. Take your time. I’ll be reading when you come back.

  109. 8/12/09 9:06 am

     Tualla says:

    Incredibly sorry to read this news. All thoughts are with you and your family Frank – Tualla

  110. 10/7/09 8:19 pm

     sean says:

    Very sorry to hear about your loss, Frank. Take care of yourself.

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